Let’s face it; we all have had a crush on someone at some point in our lives.
Whether we let our crush know about our feeling or we stayed with the feeling and just accept the fact that we can’t be with them, the fact remains that at least there is that someone that we wished they would ours.
Growing up most teenagers tend to have a crush on their favorite celebrity. I mean it’s understandable, right?
These crushed have all the fame, are good looking, and rich… just anything you would wish for in a boyfriend/girlfriend.
But, isn’t the crush a bit more unrealistic? What are the chances that your favorite celebrity crush will even notice you leave alone like you?
However, there are times when we have a crush on someone whom we are in the same class with.
Maybe it’s that guy in your chemistry class who has magical blue eyes and when he smiles you feel butterflies in your stomach.
Hey, that girl who lives next door and every time she walks by you have to peep through the window just to see her amazing figure.
But, more often than not most of our crushes end up having someone else whom they like.
And, it is for this reason you need to know the things to do if your crush likes someone else.
I understand it’s pretty disappointing and heartbreaking having a crush on someone only to discover that they like someone else.
Sometimes you may feel as if you want to punch that person in the face and tell them “he is mine tell them to stop liking you.”
The following are the 10 things to do when your crush likes someone else.
1. Let them know how you feel
Most of us, especially the ladies find it hard to tell a guy they have a crush on that they like them and possibly have all sorts of illusion imaginations about them.
But to some extent it is understandable, ladies fear rejection.
What if he turns me down? What if he is rude to me?
These are the questions that come to someone’s mind, but, you need to face all these fears and tell your crush exactly how you feel about them.
If your crush is that guy in you chemistry class you need to tell him that anytime you look at him your heart almost skips a bit.
Let them know that you like them in a manner that is more than just a friend. Hello, life is too short not to try out our chances.
Despite the fact that he/she initially may be interested in someone else, who knows after you tell them how you feel they might actually start liking you and probably end up riding into the sunset with you.
2. Find what they like on the other person
You have a huge crush on this guy, but his attention seems to be focused solely on another lady. Ouch!
I know it hurts, but you can actually win his love. All you need to do is try and find out what your crush likes about the other person.
Maybe they like how they dress; perhaps it’s how she carries herself with dignity or maybe how she perfectly applies her lipstick.
Try and find out what makes your crush to like the other person and that’s not all, try and better it.
If he likes how she dresses, then try and dress like her or even better than her. If he likes how she respects herself then you need to carry yourself with more dignity to and who knows your crush might end up discovering that you are better than the person they like.
However, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t push yourself into being someone you are not, always try as much as possible to remain original.
3. Be cool and don’t be jealous
To some extent jealous is a normal thing if you have a crush on someone.
Feeling like punching the other guy or girl that your crush likes is normal, but you shouldn’t give in to this feeling.
On the contrary, you should act cool. I know at times you feel so desperate that you aren’t the one they like but always maintain confidence and never show any sign of jealousy.
Research has it that most people both guys and ladies get attracted to people who display confidence and showing how jealous you are only exposing your insecurities and that is the part that you should have your crush see.
4. Share your feelings
Hey, ever heard of the saying that a problem shared is a problem half solved? The same case applies to if your crush likes someone else.
I mean at times we might feel so depressed and curse our lives saying how unfair it is: why did I have to crush on someone who likes someone else?
Being sidelined and every time thinking about the good times that your crush is having with the other person at times can prove to be so much to handle to most people.
It is for this reason that you need to share your situation with a close friend. I know, sharing with them won’t make your crush like you, but it will help you feel relieved and you shall get comfort in knowing that at least there is someone who cares.
And, who knows, you might share with you friend and coincidentally they may be going the same thing.
5. Be nice to everyone
Always be nice to your crush despite discovering that they like someone else.
You may be tempted to be rude to them, after all, they like someone else and you can’t have them. But, this is not always the case.
You can actually be nice by genuinely complimenting them and showing how much you appreciate them.
To being with: who doesn’t like being complimented and being appreciated?
It might turn out that the person they like never compliments them and the fact that you appreciate them and see how handsome or beautiful they are, your crush might end up liking you.
Who knows that could be the beginning of your until death does us apart journey.
6. Find out if you crush is worth it
At times we might have a crush on someone only to discover later that they are not worth it.
For instance: when I was in college I had a huge crush on this guy in my economics class, he was everything I wanted in a man and I felt that if I won’t date home then I better stay single forever.
Weeks later, I discovered that the guy was a drug addict and had been involved in various robberies.
Try and find out more details about your crush and evaluate if they are worth it or not.
However, everything should be done in moderation, you don’t want to be that creepy girl who stalks your crush and follows him even to the washroom, do you?
7. Be fun
Everyone likes to be with someone who makes them happy. It’s logical; no one would like to end up marrying someone who frowns all the time.
For this reason, try and be fun when with your crush.
Tell jokes when you are with him/her and if he cracks a joke don’t stare at home stale, laugh out.
Without losing yourself try as much as possible not to be too rigid, be flexible.
If he asks for a dance, dance with him, it doesn’t matter if you are a good dancer or not. This might work magic for you and don’t be surprised if you win your crush over and they begin to start liking you.
8. Be there for them
People appreciate those who stand with them during their bad moments. If you crush is having a rough day be there for them and comfort them.
Hey, I know sometimes they might be sad because perhaps the person they like has done something to them that they didn’t like.
The normal feeling would be to yell at him/her and say “I told you I liked you but you still chose her over me.”
But, you should try and comfort them even in such a situation and, just maybe they might end up discovering that you are the right person whom they should love.
9. Always act happy
You have told your crush how you feel about them, you have been complimenting them and have always been there during their sad moments.
But, he/she doesn’t like you yet despite all this.
You feel frustrated but try as much as possible not to show you frustrations, always act happy.
10. Look for someone else
If you have tried everything possible and it still doesn’t work out then it’s high time for you to know that there is someone else made for you.
Life is too short to have a crush on someone who will never love you back.
You need to move on and stop holding to your feelings that is never going to meet reality. Love will find you someday.
And, who knows, you might as well be a crush for someone else.
It’s natural and absolutely normal to have a crush on someone; however, things can be disappointing if he/she actually likes someone else.
Even if your crush likes someone else, you either need to win over or leave it for good.
However, you should never try to envy someone or start hurting yourself. You only live and love once.
Make sure you make it both with the right one!